Brain Teasers
The Woman Who Changed Her Brain
“The Woman Who Changed Her Brain – and other inspiring stories of pioneering brain transformation”, (by Barbara Arrowsmith-Young) which made her more understanding of the world she lives in altogether as well as more insightful and wise. (I take this opportunity to thank my friend, Wanda, who was so nice and inspired 🙂 to lend…
Read MoreThe Cerebral Cortex and its Convolutions
Cerebral cortex (mainly composed of small, unmyelinated neurons) is gray and it is often referred to as the gray matter. In contrast, the layer beneath the cortex is mainly composed of large myelinated axons, which are white and often referred to as the white matter. Humans’ cerebral cortex is deeply convoluted. The convolutions are increasing…
Read MoreMind-reading and False Expectations
Expecting your partner to read your mind and know what will make you happy is unrealistic and leads to disappointment and resentment. This works for both men and women equally. Life would be very tedious indeed if you had to anticipate what others wanted. “It would be like treading on eggshells, worrying about upsetting everyone.…
Read MorePerception and Behaviour – Irritating Behaviours
I find this book (“Side by Side” by Jo Lamble & Sue Morris) so useful and straight forward that it doesn’t require any comments or additions. There it is – another take-home message: ‘Hierarchy of irritating behaviours: Think of the five most irritating things your partner does. Rank them in order from least to most…
Read MoreChallenging Unhelpful Thoughts
Important! New thoughts do not have to be falsely positive (wishful thinking), but realistic thoughts. The bottom line is to aim for calmness, less anger and/or less anxiety. Shifting in emotion might be enough to produce a more helpful and productive behaviour. So as to work out the new thoughts, it is useful to ask…
Read MoreWhat causes Feelings & Behaviour?
A Situation triggers Thoughts that cause Feelings & Behaviour Clear thinking is based on the premise that the way you think influences the way you feel and how you behave. In other words, it is your interpretation or opinion about a situation that causes you to feel the way you do. Your interpretation of a…
Read MoreQuote of the Day
Potter Stewart (an Associate Justice of the United States Supreme Court) once said: “Ethics is knowing the difference between what you have the right to do and what is right to do.” And that says it all, I think.
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