Always remember – it is not selfish to take care of yourself! It is the best thing you can ever do for you to stay healthy and happy!
“It’s been estimated that over 60 million families are caring for an aging or disabled person at home, and at least 85% of the caregivers are women.”*
This tends to cost women self-care and attention to their own needs. Women also care for children. Even though men are beginning to help more at home, it has been estimated that mums still spend twice as much time with their children than dads. This includes teaching, caregiving, and even driving their children to activities and appointments. Of course that exercising, planning a healthy meal, and considering self-care can fall by the wayside.
Women also care for spouses and partners.
“Women are extremely proud of how much they do for their loved ones. But they also feel utterly exhausted. In the process of putting so much of themselves into caring for others, they end up neglecting themselves. Their own care suffers. Exercise is forgotten, healthy eating is off the menu. They gain weight and lose strength. They age quickly and their health deteriorates.”*
What can you do to change that?
- Take care of yourself first, so you are able to take care of others. Once you started taking care of yourself, taking care of your own health, going to the gym, finding time to rest and relax properly helps you look and feel better, even become a better mum, having more energy and being more accessible emotionally and physically, being more present for your kids.
- You are not alone. So many women are in a very similar position where they feel exhausted and sometimes hopeless. All go through pretty much same struggles in their daily lives. Having babies makes it hard for more and more mums to get back in shape, feeling embarrassed and unwilling to talk about it. Women also tend to gain weight going through menopause as so many hormonal changes take place during that period, which cause them not to look or feel the way they used to anymore. Countless of women feel exactly the same and it is all OK.
- Give yourself permission to accept help. It is important to realise that taking the first steps into accepting help is the way to go. We don’t have to be perfect, we only have to get started on our way to improve our health and wellbeing. Let the skilled professionals take care of you, whether it is a dietitian, a personal trainer, a general practitioner, a physiotherapist, or another allied health professional. It is their job and they are usually happy to help. Take care of yourself!